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Having looked at some of the photos, one of the things that I notice is a lack of televisions which I see amongst sometimes with my friends.
I find when I go to my friends living room with a PS4 and tv, we generally chat for a few minutes before diving into games or videos. Or if I go to another friends place, they feel obligated to entertain instead of allowing one another to be he entertainment. And while I certainly enjoy those moments around the tv, it feels less gratifying than talking amongst each other about the state of things and being deep within our conversations. Perhaps that's why when I'm alone, I love listening to podcasts with two people talking amongst themselves because they tend to go very deep and are very focused.
Along those same lines, I never understood why bars and clubs have such loud music as to make conversation impossible. Especially if it's just canned music, so you're not there to listen. And especially more if the idea is to meet women (or guys).
As far as I can determine, it's fashion. It's not that games and videos are intrinsically more enjoyable than conversation, or that people have more success meeting the opposite sex if talking is impossible (granted that it might work very well for some people). I think it's more of a culture/fashion thing and this can change over time.
Loud music increases alcohol consumption. Bars and clubs are in the business of selling alcohol, so of course the music is really loud.
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1530-0277.2008....
According to a friend with a restaurant, quiet restaurants get worse reviews and people don't seem to enjoy themselves as much.
Obviously there are exceptions, and some particularly expensive restaurants are pretty quiet (I have eaten at some of them with said friend and we have discussed this phenomenon).
I remember reading a study stating that the louder the music, the more refreshments get sold because people drink faster/more when they can't have a conversation.
Quick google search: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2432699/Loud-music-in-bars-m...
I've always understood it to be economics - people drink more in louder bars.
But it might be fashion, too. It's what people expect the bar they want to go to to be. And maybe certain people don't go to a bar to talk, anyway.
If you are struggling just to exchange a few sentences, suddenly the mindless wooden banter at the bar seems less pointless. It seems more like a real accomplishment.
>> Along those same lines, I never understood why bars and clubs have such loud music as to make conversation impossible.
Bars I can understand but the point of a club is the music/dancing. You go to a bar for some conversation before the club. Seems a lot of bars are becoming part-clubs though because that's what people want (local bars and pubs have been closing down pretty quickly in the last 10 years).
for regular bars I don't know, but if you want to score at a club, talking is often a hindrance. a few looks and dancing is usually enough to get started, and the loud music can even be a pretext to go elsewhere.
There is a distinction to be made between the living room and the family room. Family rooms tend to have TVs, and living rooms are for sitting+conversating.
This is an article of clearly well-off households and their living rooms. Your mention of PS4 and tvs leads me to believe you're younger, and that your friends are perhaps not living in houses the size of those that the German upper/upper-middle class families whose homes are pictured. I don't think I know anyone in my own social circle who has both a family room and a living room, because the extra room is almost always turned in to another bedroom.
e: Please continue the conversation, tell me what I had read wrong -- simply downvoting me is rude and unconstructive.
As mxfh pointed out, these are guest-welcoming areas of rich people. Elite people in Germany (pretend to) not watch much TV.
(I never owned a TV, within or without Germany.)
In my circle of friends only minority has TVs, we are more of a Internet generation, TV lacks interactivity and limits selection.
BTW. I'm not from Germany and never lived there.
In my experience it's a generational thing. I'm 29, and whenever I'm with people around my age sometimes the TV will be on, but only if we're actually watching or playing something. Otherwise the TV is off. Whenever I'm with people of my parents' generation though, the TV is always blaring even if they're not actually watching anything, and since they always watch live TV instead of streaming services the advertising is incredibly annoying.
In years past when I'd be on group trips and sharing a room with one or more people, there were definitely those who would turn on the TV as soon as they walked into the room. Always drove me crazy to be honest.
I'm certainly open to believing it's a generational thing. If you grew up watching whatever happened to be on I could see you more accustomed to TV-as-background than something you turned on to watch a specific thing.
On the other hand, in airports/bars/etc. I see no shortage of TVs blaring today. Maybe this is driven by the preferences of an older generation but I'm a bit skeptical.
>>they feel obligated to entertain instead of allowing one another to be he entertainment
A most excellent pithy summary!!
When I have friends over, we end up in my workshop or the kitchen or just sitting on the stairs by the front door, talking. I've tried to raise my kids to appreciate that, for adults, switching on a television or bringing out a cellphone while in the company of another is a rude gesture and a signal : "you bore me."
> Having looked at some of the photos, one of the things that I notice is a lack of televisions[...]
Living room == formal entertainment room (ie. no TV) Family room == casual family entertainment room (ie. TV)
Source; 2 sets of German grandparents.
I stopped watching TV on a TV twenty years ago, but I watch enough Netflix/YouTube and read enough frivolous social news (including some HN stories) to more than make up for it.
Nothing like a television to make your room look garish! Or to ruin the potential to hang out or go on and do something else.
Agreed. I'd rather have a projector in the living room than a TV.
You made me curious. What are those podcasts?
Calling them living rooms is a bit of a misnomer for most of them, representational guest zone in uncommonly large apartments of the Berlin cultural elite might be a bit more honest description.
The last two (Blechschmidt and Hubalek) might be actual living room arrangements.
If you want something more down to earth, check out Freunde von Freunden [1]. They
started in Berlin and most of the people they interview live in Berlin.
They meet "friends of friends", interview them and take pictures of their homes.
> Calling them living rooms is a bit of a misnomer for most of them
Living room, family room, and den always confused me when I was a kid. In the States, "living room" means a more formal room for entertaining guests (coffee table with thick art monographs) and it'd often be adjacent to the dining room. In contrast, the "family room" or "den" are places where people would spend most of their time and that's where the television would be.
Don't ask me how the room came to be called "living room" since most people don't spend much time there to the point that some houses would have the couches covered in plastic or bedsheets.
We don't, that i know, have family rooms or dens in the UK, but i have always been a bit confused by the possibility of both living rooms and sitting rooms. There are also lounges, of course, but the kind of people who have lounges certainly don't have sitting rooms. To say nothing of drawing rooms.
There's actually quite a good gallery of British living rooms through the ages in the Geffrye Museum in London, starting from back when they were called parlours. The main thing i remember about it is that the Victorians had fantastically poor taste in interior decoration.
I've visited dozens of apartments in Berlin during several searches (WG-Zimmer or Nachmieter), some fairly nice, and yeah...most people don't live like that. A lot of places have two or three bedrooms and no "living room".
You mean you don't have a queen-sized chaise lounge in your 20-ft-ceilinged warehouse-style living room? And is that a stuffed leopard? (Angelika Blechschmidt)
I live in Charlottenburg and I have a tiny indoor slide. Way more fun.
Berliner here.... the sad truth is that most living rooms are dominated by Ikea furniture and are nowhere near like the stylish and classical ensembles presented in the article.
Yeah, when I think of Berlin apartments, I think of cramped-and-lovingly-dilapidated altbau rooms, resigned attempts to enliven a ubiquitous WWII reconstruction, and probably a balcony :) Damn, I can't wait to move back in a couple months!!!
It's just a different style.
Some prefer rococo style (late Baroque) and some more modern minimalism presented by e.g. Ikea.
I prefer the later, and most of my generation also. Our parents prefer the former.
Some also prefer living in a large city, and cannot afford a living room you can park a hobby aircraft in.
My problem with Ikea isn't the design--their products are pretty good in that regard. My problem is with their awful construction quality. Particleboard does not belong in furniture. Fiberboard and plywood sure, oriented strand board maybe, but particleboard? Hell no.
Yeah, and that Barcelona chair can't be an inexpensive yet faithful reproduction due to the dreadful European laws on furniture designs. It's a 5k piece on its own.
Wait, please tell me more about these inexpensive yet faithful reproductions. Is there good place in Germany to find these?
Are they so dreadful?
It's copyright of a design, and ultra-fancy furniture is hardly a necessity.
Why sad truth? I just looked at my Ikea sofa (in a Berliner Wohnzimmer, for the record) and noticed, that it lived longer with me than any of my partners. That may be sad, but it's not the sofa's fault.
If you found this story interesting, you might find this research interesting:
"A room with a cue: personality judgments based on offices and bedrooms" [pdf] (utexas.edu) http://gosling.psy.utexas.edu/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/JPS...
... and if you prefer something a bit more juicy and judgmental, there's Fussell's "Class" (https://books.google.ca/books?id=aPbF1kuayJYC&lpg=PP1&dq=cla...)
In the fourth paragraph he mentions Charlottenberg. The actual name is Charlottenburg (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charlottenburg).
And they say it's been more than thirty years since the Berlin Wall came down…
The article mentions:
>"East Berlin had Alexanderplatz; West Berlin had Europa Center ..."
I know Alexanderplatz but can someone tell me where is/was Europa Center?
Now I feel silly, Charlottenburg, thanks.
also Kuh-Damm
Do Berliners still refer to it as Europa Center or something else?
No TVs is what i'm seeing here.
And lots of books.
I'm jealous of those vast spaces, i only have a tiny room in Berlin.