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"Only boring people get bored." -my dad, every time I whined about being bored as a kid.
It seems like an unpopular opinion, but now that I've reached adulthood, I actually kind of feel this way... Though I wouldn't phrase it as insultingly. It's 2017: There's a big wide world out there of free and cheap hobbies and opportunities to learn. All it takes is time, which if you're bored, you generally have.

Fwiw, in my case what I used to think was boredom was actually an unrecognized anxiety disorder and associated anhedonia. I got a diagnosis but decided to treat it myself (mainly with meditation and sleep hygiene) and the concept of boredom has pretty much vanished from my life.

Generalized version:

"Only <low status> people get <common condition that I do not have, or would like to signal I do not have>".

Once you see the pattern you'll see it everywhere.

Nah, I'm pretty sure he just wanted to encourage me to come up with ways to entertain myself. Thus, my childhood hobbies included building a city out of empty kleenex boxes for a family of little pieces of wool to live in; recording songs off the radio onto cassette tapes and coming up with indexing strategies to keep track of them in notebooks; and soaking every plant I could find in rubbing alcohol to find out which ones made dye I could paint with. Weird kid, what can I say.
Sounds like you spent your time exploring creative pursuits. That's worthwhile. Seems like a fun childhood. I believe that it is important to stave off boredom with creative, rather than consumptive activities.
I think you mean you'll project it everywhere. I say this to my kids as well, not to signal anything but to engage their creativity. A lot of kids these days can't figure anything to do if they don't have a device in their hands. I had to routinely ride in a car for 8+ hours as a kid and mobile devices either didn't exist or were so expensive as to may as well not exist. A lot of my creativity today stems from techniques I developed in those times.
I think his dad was just trying to get his son to stop whining about how bored he was.
Only this case, despite following the syntactic form, has nothing to do with this pattern.

For one, it's not about signaling superiority (which is what the pattern is all about) -- it's merely advice. The sayer (?) is not claiming they are exciting themselves, just that being bored is a sign of not recognizing opportunities to be engaged with something.

(Also, in the general case, the presence of the pattern or the snobbism of the one saying it, doesn't mean it's also wrong).

There's a scene in HBO's Westworld which revolves around this.

"My father used to say that only boring people get bored [...] I used to think it's only boring people who don't feel boredom, or cannot conceive of it in others."

I personally like the idea that only boring people can't conceive of boredom.

Neither boredom nor never being bored is a sign of a boring personality. But for me, the spirit of OP's quote is that if you're intellectually curious, you can almost always find something to explore - the systems around you, the natural environment, getting to know ordinary people, examining and classifying materials, describing your lack of stimulation poetically...And that's a good attitude to cultivate. You'll still probably get bored occasionally; it's a part of life.
In fact I would argue that from boredom have come many of my best moments. Where you can't think of anything to do, so working on crazy projects you wouldn't normally consider or exploring round the next corner just to see what's there. In a way, i'm thankful for boredom
Boredom is one of the best drivers of creativity.
Also on HBO (Game of Thrones S05E04):

Stannis Baratheon to his daughter Shireen: "My father used to tell me that boredom indicates a lack of inner resources."

Shireen: "Were you bored a lot too?"

Edit: formatting

Yeah, people love to say that.
> Most door-close buttons in elevators and request-to-walk buttons at crosswalks serve no purpose other than to give us something to fidget with.

Ha, I was right! Wretched things.

About the crosswalk thing, I'm pretty sure that's a myth. At least everywhere I've lived if you don't press the button, you don't get a walk sign. There are intersections that have walk signs automatically, but they don't have buttons.
It's the same for door-close buttons in the handful of elevators I use regularly. The doors do close just when you push it, whereas you have to wait several seconds if you don't.
Depends, in my apartment the door close button is actually counter productive as you have to push it all the way until the door closes. As people tend to only push it quickly, it actually opens the door which was already closing.

Pretty annoying.

This is also the case where I live - if you don't press the button the whole thing stays unlit so you know it's "off".
There are busy intersections where the buttons are installed, but are only active outside of rush hours or on weekends or not on weekends or only when the circus is in town etc.

Because the programming of the lights is different to facilitate maximum throughput (f.e. with a green wave) in some periods, and the walk signs are on a constant/different timing then.

I hate, REALLY hate the intersections that try to be smart about me taking a kitty-corner crossing by pressing both direction buttons.

When I do that, I'm trying to tell the light what I need so it can figure out the correct timing signals to get me where I need to go faster.

Yeah where I live, if there are no cars the lights don't change.
Door close buttons do close the door, but any time a normal person is using it, the door is already about to close as fast as it is allowed to when you press it, so it's not going to close any faster. If you're a maintenance worker however, who uses it outside of normal operation the door close button has to shut the door or it won't shut until you put it back into it's normal operation loop, and also because if it doesn't shut the door it will fail a fire test.
A bit like those temperature dials in hotel rooms.