>> The trauma of being asked not to make rape jokes can't be compared to the trauma of being raped.

???

>>> Just do the right thing, is it worth the arguing?

So I think your argument is very all/nothing. There's a whole spectrum of "this thing offends 1 person" -> "this thing offends 100% of people", and we do have to draw a line (is it 20%? 50%?) and not simply label things "offensive."

It's all especially confusing when some people are offended on "behalf" of others. I think oversimplifying this issue is wrong and making this very discussion "unsafe" is also wrong.