I think the point from GP (which aligns with my thinking) is that more programmatic interfaces for querying data allow for control flow in constructing the query, not just in processing it. So you can conditionally add a predicate or whatever, and then run the whole query at once.

Whereas with the SQL packages you mentioned, you either have to conditionally construct your query string (ew) or pull results back and express your conditional as operations on the resulting data frame.

For pure dplyr-on-in-memory-data-frame there isn't much difference between the two, to be sure. For dplyr on dbplyr, or sparklyr, or for SparkR, or PySpark, or Dask, or pick-your-favorite-framework, the difference between operating on (effectively) query AST vs. result sets is huge.