"War is hell." - U.S. General William T. Sherman

Most people don't want to live in hell. Most people (especially women, children, elderly, etc.) don't feel empowered by the prospect of a civil war, as you seem to. And looking at post-colonial histories...all too often, the civil wars, military coups, large-scale ethnic violence, etc...they never really end. Or only "end" as long as some ruthless dictator lasts.