That sucks. As to your specific points:
> If I alt-tab, I need to move the mouse before I can use my scroll wheel.
Just tested this, doesn't seem to affect me.
> Basic Gnome commands (like restarting) are unavailable.
I can tap Command and then type restart and it shows up as an item on the drawer. Fastest way to restart short of assigning a shortcut for me.
> For some reason, Gnome on Wayland can't handle Bluetooth as well as Gnome on X11.
Too early to say for me, but so far, Bluetooth has been equally solid. As a bonus, I discovered Pipewire from the comments on this post and now I can use the headset mode of my Airpods Pro!
> Yes, insofar as recent versions of MacOS have also been glitchy, bug-ridden messes.
The issue with Mac is that a glitch or a bug isn't something you can hope to fix even if you have the skills. Linux affords you that which is very powerful.
EDIT: I run Arch Linux btw.