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> I’m also interested in the dating scene, I find Norwegian women in general to be beautiful.

You seem like a nice person, but this phrase comes off as creepy. I would recommend NOT saying things like this if you're looking to meet people.

> I will eventually be looking for a long term relationship, but as a middle aged, balding guy I might not be the most desirable!

This immediately makes me like you! If you end up creating a dating profile, lean into this spirit.

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>>> I’m also interested in the dating scene, I find Norwegian women in general to be beautiful.

> this phrase comes off as creepy

How could you possibly interpret that phrase as creepy? What's creepy about it?

People want to be liked as individuals, not fetishised as members of a group.

He's not saying he likes them _because_ they are Norwegian, but rather that in his experience he tends to be attracted to Norwegian women.

Which would be fine if brought up among friends sharing a pint, and not as the second paragraph addressed to complete stranger.

It's perceived as creepy because it's an odd way to bring up your interest in a country.

In general, don't comment on people's appearance.

It's obviously okay to have preferences, but it's safer to stay away from certain phrasings if you want people to feel safe around you.

In general, don't comment on people's appearance.

Ever heard of a concept of compliments? I've been praising appearance of beautiful people since I was a teenager - never once I encountered anyone who would get upset about it.