I believe kindness and honesty are orthogonal.
> He and his team bans everyone who are confrontational.
I have a very distinct vibe. And sometimes people don’t want me at their parties because I don’t fit their vibe. Sometimes I’m invited to parties and then asked to leave because I don’t fit the vibe. I don’t think anybody at fault in these situations :) It’s hard to curate communities, and it’s hard to fit in