I also hate Christmas for similar reasons. Choosing gifts that don't feel like giving unnecessary junk/clutter is very hard and stressful. It has got a bit easier as I get older and the circle shrinks a bit, plus usually we only give food/drink gifts now, often homemade which helps.

I agree with this sentiment.

It feels so nice when I think of something that I know someone needs or will use.

That's very difficult to do for everyone I know closely all on the same date.

The right consumables make a lot more sense past a certain point. For me, if I want/need something, I'll just buy it. Other things can be nice especially if I've talked about them but have been procrastinating about taking the plunge--though then that probably means they're a lot for a casual gift. I could probably get rid of half the stuff in my house and not miss it.