I’d argue against having no control of how others react/percieve you.
Perform well - others will most likely think highly of you.
Perform poorly - you’re getting fired.
Stoicism should be taken with a grain of salt.
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I wouldn’t take those outcomes as given at all. Could also easily be:
Perform well - someone feels threatened.
Perform poorly - reflects poorly on your boss if their boss finds out.
But more common in my experience:
Perform well or badly - no one gives a shit.
In my opinion, the problem arises from the belief that "I have control over how others think of me."
One way to think about the nature of this question is to consider: "Do I also believe that 2 different people will think the exact same thing of me in the same situation? What about 10 different people?"
I had a mentor who really worked with me to develop the belief that "what other people think of me, is none of my business." It isn't easy to do but for me it is very helpful.