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by ed_balls·2y ago·view on hn ↗
Is there a good analysis on what are the strongest predictors a good long term relationship?

I've broke up with my ex a few months ago. She was an MD. Now a lot of my matches on Tinder are medical workers (over 30%) and I'm baffled why.

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The likeliest explanation is something on your profile makes MDs interested. For example a professional photo or something in your bio.

Dating profiles have a limited set of info. Tiny tweaks can generate massive filter effects.

I have very little info. I like snowboards, standup, dogs, no description. I've put software engineer as a job. A couple years ago, I've A/B tested a few photos and with regular photo in a t-shirt I've only got a 2-4 likes per week. With a very similar photo to this one https://e0.pxfuel.com/wallpapers/29/831/desktop-wallpaper-io...

I've got about 60 likes per week. I've thought that's a lot, but my ex told me she's got almost 2000 in a first week.

If your "best foot forward" is a snapshot in a T-shirt, that is understandably going to draw less interest than a professional model shot by a professional photographer with professional hair, makeup, lighting, and expensive clothes.

I've got clothes that probably aren't much cheaper than that, and while I do look my best in them in random photos, it's nothing compared to the response I get when I'm seen wearing them in person. I'm not a model (I don't have the looks), but a man in a good suit is going to provide enough pause to make most women at least consider him. Then it's up to you to be charming.

I should probably add that the picture was average quality - my mate made it using old Samsung. Second one was in a plain black t-shirt, but much better lighting and camera.

I have enough signal to claim that a profesional picture in a suit can boost your matches by 2 orders of magnitude. All my ex-girlfriends said it excites them I'm confided and ambitious - I'm not - but the suit conveys that messages. It's fascinating.

Oh, sure.

Pics like that really are a “best foot forward” approach. Mediocre photo, casual dress, nothing remarkable about setting? Not going to get a lot of attention. Wearing a wetsuit on the beach with a surfboard or SCUBA gear will also get a lot more attention. Or t-shirt, but while you’re sitting in the pilot’s seat of a private plane (preferably while in the air).

Your Ex shared her hit ratio?
Yes, she was bragging that she was chosen to Tinder Select or whatever it's called.
Hospital medical people are pretty wild. Especially with all of the visiting nurses in some places… those folks are usually young, making too much money, and hitting anything that moves.