I've definitely felt this. I don't know how much of this feeling is legitimate and how much is just me seeking excuses externally, but the sentiment you mentioned is definitely felt and demotivating. Still, this isn't the women's fault who are engaging with and benefiting from these programs, so the solution isn't to go bash them for it. (not that I think you implied that)

It's gotta be something different, uplifting. The most helpful sentiment might be "It's super cool that you're finally getting the opportunities that you deserved for years, and the support and coaching networks that have sprung up out of it are great. I'd like that as well."