AUTO HI-BEAMS: OFF (always OFF)
HI-BEAMS ON: ONLY when there are no cars in front of you
APPROACHING BRIGHT HEADLIGHTS: Short 2x burst. Resist going further than this, just glance off to the passsenger-side of your windshield and avoid looking directly at the lights, deep in thought...
IF you are FLASHED by oncoming traffic, at least CHECK (the indicator on your dash will be a very bright BLUE) - IF they are ON then TURN THEM OFF. IF they are off THEN give a courtesy SHORT 1-2x flash.
IF the car(s) IN FRONT of you seem to be excessively braking or flashing their HI-BEAMS seemingly at random - CHECK YOURS! Courtesy flash not recommended so much here.
Cars BEHIND you with BRIGHT LIGHTS? Brake tap might or might not help, I also target large traffic signs with some short rapid bursts to hopefully get their attention.
At some point, doing nothing becomes the best strategy. Some people really do love antagonizing.
Stay focused when you're driving, you should be striving to do it "like a pro" and with respect for others.
/psa
p.s. that botton in your light control cluster that you don't know what it is? Leave it off please. Those are your Tow-lamps and they make your taillights extremely bright.