It's like love: "I will love you forever".-
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What people don't realize is that love isn't just having butterflies in your stomach all the time. Love changes over time, and saying I will love you forever is reasonable if sincere. I love all of my friends and I will love them forever. If I say that to my SO I mean it, even if we separate. People just want the initial rush of love until the chemicals fade.
That is true. Love, to me, is commitment. We no longer feel that rush we felt in the beginning. Things may be calm, which people mistake for boredom, which they mistake for doing something wrong or something is being wrong. People tend to move on after the "honeymoon phase", and keep repeating it ad infinitum. I have exes. I do not hate them, we never separated on bad terms. I do not love them romantically, however. I love my current girlfriend and I am committed to her. I have no intentions giving it up. That said, one must not confuse love with endurance. You cannot just keep on forgiving, always hoping for the best next time. You need to get out (ideally peacefully) after a while. I learned my lesson. In any case, I will continue trying to work things out with my current girlfriend, and we are doing fine, even though we have a lot of baggage and things are difficult sometimes. Of course there are some deal-breakers that I did not care about with one of my exes, I kept on forgiving even after she has cheated on me. It is not something I should have done, yet I did it, because I confused love with endurance.
Thoughts? If you want me to, I can elaborate on what I really mean, but I hope it was understandable enough.
Trust is really important to me and I couldnt forgive a cheater, but that does not mean I won't love the person they are. Sure I would be hurt which is human, and I would definitely cut them out of my life, but there will forever be the part of them that I love. Otherwise I wouldn't have been this hurt.
I agree. I could never forgive a cheater either, and I was stupid to mistake love with forgiving endlessly.
Fair enough. Well put.-
Was trying to "analogize" to "unlimited".-
I promise, I will never die.