> people should be free to choose how connected they want to feel
Yes and no. Of course people should be free, at the same time you live in a society and not a state of nature.
If someone never has to put back into society, that's dangerous. It could lead to people feeling that society has no value, that there's no sense in investing in it, that since nobody else cares why should I.
That's not a world I want to live in.